PRAISE

SHOULD THE WOMAN HELP OR NOT?

There have been so many questions on my mind lately and as I sat to ponder over some of these questions, one of them aroused my interest and got me very confused as to the ideas perceived towards this question of interest.

The question I had been pondering over was whether a woman should help her man finance their wedding?

I have been pondering over this for a long time and one time in church; during one of the counseling sessions this question was brought up and what the elders said was that it isn’t really advisable for the woman to foot their (both man and wife) wedding expenses. In a way, this seems shocking right? In other words, some would agree to this perhaps? Some people will wonder; doesn’t the wedding involve both man and woman so why leave the entire expenses on one party?

The elders came up with such interesting answers; some of which they said that ‘what if’ the woman foots all/most of the bills and after the wedding, the man decides to be comfortable or complacent knowing whatever the situation, the woman will step in making him not put too much effort in providing for his family as the breadwinner? Makes sense, doesn’t it? Then again, you’ll wonder why they can’t split the expenses so they share it equally to make the wedding a success, right? Beats my mind too. With this, in my opinion, I do believe the wedding costs can be shared since both the man and woman are in it together and it really wouldn’t be fair if one party incurs all the costs alone or if the man decides to do everything alone, then that’s okay but I wouldn’t advise the woman to take up the cost of everything.

Interacting with others on this topic some of them came up with suggestions/answers that, the woman can cater for things like her bridal wear and perhaps the cost of the food. Others suggested the two families of the couple can chip in to help with the expenses so as to reduce cost as much as possible.

One counselor, on TV, also said no woman should help a man with the wedding expenses. He believed that as a man, if you are ready for marriage, you should be able to foot the cost of the wedding. He somehow has a point here, doesn’t he but that is just by the way.

From my point of view, I know marriage is supposed to be a partnership so if you don’t or can’t help your spouse to foot the expenses of your wedding, how are you going to help sustain the marriage if any financial problems arise in the marriage?

All thought and suggestions are welcomed.